May is the month that belongs to Moms not just because of the amazing alliteration and yes, Mother’s Day might have something to do with it, but also May happens to be my own Mother’s birthday month as well! I’d like to not only dedicate this post but this whole month to Moms everywhere! (To be honest, though, if your mom is anything like mine, she deserves a heck of a lot more than just a month!)
This year, I’m not able to spend Mother’s Day with my mom and I’ll have to settle for constant phone calls back and forth for now. I still wanted to do something special for her to let her know I still love and appreciate her even from 1,000 miles away! It just so happens that I found the perfect way to do just that, but I also managed to turn it into a personal date! Double Whammy! (My mom let me know today that she already received her gift in the mail—ahead of the game I know—so I’m all set to share my ideas with you!)
This past weekend I attended an amazing little event hosted by one of my favorite LA based Businesses The Social Type and another really neat brand, Orly Nail Polish. Orly Nail Polish recently opened a pop-up promotional shop called Orly Color Labs where you can go in and create your own custom nail color! They ask you a series of questions and then you create a mood board which winds up turning into your new custom color! Next you head to the mixology station and watch the magic happen! You even get name your custom color and seal the deal. 😘
Check out my Custom Colors: What Moms are Made Of (for none other than my mom) and Day of Jae…. How fitting right?! Not will you walk away with a custom nail polish to take home or send to a friend, every Saturday you can also get a FREE manicure with your purchase. Absolutely amazing!
The nail bar is the first of its kind and is currently only available in Los Angeles. You can visit the pop-up shop at 7621 Beverly Blvd., L.A., 90036; Tuesday through Saturday from 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. So YES, there’s still time to head in and make one for your mom!
If you make it in before Sunday, you can also snag a card from The Social Type! I’ve been following this stationary & gifts shop on social media for a few years now (turns out we actually have some mutual friends and a lot in common!) I have always been inspired by their products and everything they do! I’ve been fortunate enough to meet the ladies in charge a few times now and they’re beyond wonderful! Always looking to go above to provide memorable opportunities for their customers! While they’re also located in Los Angeles, near Silver Lake to be exact, you can still shop their collections online at https://thesocialtype.com.
Now let’s say you’re not in LA and still need something for your mom that’s a little speedier because you waited until last minute! Or maybe you want to spoil your Grandma or Mother-in-law? Maybe your best friend just became a new mom??? Whoever the mom is in your life—I have the perfect gift option for you—Florapy Beauty Sheet Masks! The entire sheet mask collection is now available on Amazon and you can even get two day or next day deliver via Amazon Prime depending on your location! Give her the gift of flowers that won’t wilt but instead will keep her skin hydrated and radiant for time to come!
Running too late for even that??? I’ve got you! Download one of these printable cards (created by yours truly) print them out (or screen shot and send if you’d rather), write out a message and boom— your mom will love it just because it came from you. 💜
Phew, what’s with 2019?! It’s an intense, exciting, and full-speed ahead year, isn’t it? I’ve had a lot of things going on especially in trying to reconnect with all the friends I hadn’t seen since well before I went back to Iowa with the Holidays. If you’re looking for more recent updates, look out for my upcoming posts on Instagram & Facebook to get you up to speed! Otherwise I’m trying to get back into the swing of writing and preparing some more regular blog posts!
This week is a follow up to my post from way back in August, Finding Friends. Just a reminder I was discussing the struggles that come along with making friends as an adult and I shared a few of the ways I was going about this. One of the ideas I mentioned was trying a “dating” app to try to meet new friends. Well, I tried it and here’s what I have to say.
Last Fall after writing about my current friend situation I downloaded an app called Bumble. Originally this app was created with the intention of helping people to meet and inspire romantic relationships however now the app has evolved into a much larger networking tool.
Overview of the App:
There are three different modes to the Bumble app depending on what you’re looking for:
Bumble Date: which you sort through hoping to find potential people of interest to go on dates with, with the intentions of looking for a romantic relationship
Bumble Bizz: which is designed to help you to meet to grow your network in a professional sense (which I have not tried and don’t really know how it’d work…)
Bumble BFF: caters towards like-minded individuals looking to build friendships.
Once you download the app and select your mode, then you have to make a profile. Your profile includes a variety of images you select, and a short biography blub. You can also choose to share some additional basic info like where you work or where you went to school. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen that someone out here is also from Iowa or the Midwest and that instantly helps you build a connection! You can answer other basic lifestyle questions like if your single, if you have kids, or if you’re new to the area to further define who you are and help identify who might be a better match! You can also set some limits to further narrow your search by age, gender, and distance!
Here’s a peek at my profile!
Then once you create your profile, you’ll be shown a collection of other people profiles that you can swipe right (for yes, they seem like a great match) or left (no I don’t think we’d probably work out) At first, this was weird for me. When you use an app like this for dating motives, you can obviously tell if you initially attracted to them physically and by their biography, however when you are looking for friends, I don’t particularly care about your physical appearance. In the beginning I felt guilty for judging women based off of these limited descriptions and her physical attributes. With that being said though, you do generally get a sense of who you’d be more compatible with for example someone who says they’re super passionate about heavy metal bands and is looking for a friend to attend those kinds of concerts with— it’s probably not a great match for me. So, my approach is I try to keep as open of a mind as possible while being a little realistic. I try to find one or two things we have in common and then build from there. If you both approve of each other’s profile, then you “match.” Once you’re matched as a potential pair, then you have the ability to message one another and learn even more about each other and make plans to meet in real life.
Once I started matching with potential new BFF’s, women were constantly messaging me wanting to meet up and grab dinner! I went on my first friend date (for lack of a better term) to get ice cream— and she was great! We got along great and found that we have some similar interests but enough differences to learn about one another. At this point I was feeling very optimistic and excited! Then, before I knew it though it started to be a lot! People wanting to go do something every night of the week which just isn’t realistic or attainable both when it comes to time and money so… I reached out to the first girl I met and reconnected with her. Turns out that she was facing the same problem: too many to meet, too little time! So, we decided together that we should plan a group date. She’d invite people wanting to meet her and I’d do that same—combine forces. So that’s what we did! We planned a get-together at Malibu Winery (always my go to) and invited about 10 women to join us!
Once the big day came, neither of us knew what to expect because sometimes a group setting can be intimidating and interesting not knowing how one another would interact (or in this case not even who some of these women are.) Let me just say though, despite our hesitations, I truly don’t think it could have gone any better. Yes, we were an interesting group of ladies, all different ages, backgrounds, careers, interests, yet we all got along great! We shared stories over wine and snacks and just had wonderful conversations the entire day.
The beauty of it was would we all have individually met at a different event and connected and bonded, no probably not. Would we all have normally thought we’d be a friend group coming out of it, no probably not. We all shared something special that day and it gave us a bond and gave us a reason to stay in touch as a group! Maintaining these relationships, we don’t all get together every time! That’s a lot of work and pretty high expectations of one another. However, we do have a group message and when any of us has an idea of an activity the group might like, we invite one another and whoever can come, does and if it doesn’t interest you it’s totally fine!
This group of women has taught me a lot about friendship, other people and myself and I am so grateful for them! I always look forward to any activities that bring us back together. Since our initial winery date, we’ve gone roller skating, to comedy shows, out for drinks, to concerts, and to museums! We have a lot of ideas on our lists and look forward to more activities in the future!
Now outside of this group I’ve met a few other ladies that I connected with in my initial use of the App we will get dinner or drinks and I invite them to join the rest of us when we can! Outside of these few experiences, I’m no longer using the app! I now feel that between the different group of friends I have out here in LA now, I have enough of a close circle that I try to give everyone the time they deserve to continue to strengthen those friendships! I feel a little guilty that I still have so many unanswered messages on the app and I know there are way more people out there to meet! I’m satisfied though with where I’m at and think it’s best to take a little break and enjoy the ones I’ve already met.
Wrapping it up
This was over all a tremendous experience for me and it has made all of the difference! I enjoyed the freedom and flexibility it gave me in trying to make plans with other people! It’s helped me build my network of friends and has helped me try new things in the city! It’s helped me adjust to the city that much faster! The greatest part of it for me, was that everyone who is on the app is also on there looking to make friends. These people are willing to go out and get to know you and learn more about you! Not everyone is going to become your new best friend and some you’ll connect with more than others (and that’s perfectly ok.) I promise you though, you’ll learn something about yourself with every person you meet, and you never know where the relationship could go.
For me, the group date idea also made it so much easier. Yes, we got lucky we all got along in that setting but also now we continue to do group things and individual get togethers whereas otherwise we might feel like we need to reconnect one on one way more frequently! I do apologize I didn’t try other apps that compare to see which ones work best or which I liked better (because I know there’s more options out there than just Bumble.) But this one served its purpose and it’s honestly been the only thing I’ve needed so I’ve stuck with what works.
If you have tried any of the apps though, I’d love to know what your experience was like and what you thought of it! If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask!
And just like that, January (what always feels like the longest month ever) is finally over. Besides being 31 days, January always feels longer than normal maybe it’s the weather… Although I traded in -60 temperatures for 60 and sunny with a chance of rain. This month was just jam packed! (Read about it in Up on the Update.) January was so busy in fact, that I didn’t have the chance to reflect on 2018 and prepare for the new year. Which is why I decided that February would be my fresh start and a chance to really get it right.
Those of you that have been with me since the very beginning (and those of you who weren’t can read the post here) remember that at the start of 2018 I wasn’t in a great place. I admit I was being a little over the top, but it was a time in my life where I really wasn’t sure what to do next and where to go. It’s also the time I realized how important goal setting is and how having things to work towards can really change how effectively you use your time.
One year ago I was e-introduced to Hilary Rushford the founder of Dean Street Society(no I don’t actually know her personally, but I totally wish!) She’s a young and very inspiring woman who lives in NYC and has built an incredible business from the ground up! She put together a FREE online webinar called Elegant Excellence talking about how to make your dreams come true. Sounds crazy I know, but this little self-journey she encouraged me to go on made all the difference. I knew I had to go through it again this year and that I had to share it with all of you!
In case you don’t remember, just one year ago I had just been laid off from my first real full-time job. I had also found out that I was turned down from not just one, but TWO of my dream jobs (of which I had my heart set on and even had my bags packed and ready to move to Waco, TX … LOL). At the time it was easy to feel down on myself and like my career wasn’t going anywhere. Something I was also struggling with was, although I was surrounded by all my closest loved ones, I still felt incredibly lonely. Now, I think it was because I wasn’t challenging myself to get better or pushing myself out of my comfort zone. For the first time in my life I didn’t have a plan set in stone, things weren’t working out, and I was frustrated with my lack of progress.
Just a year later though, I look back on that period of time and I’m so incredibly thankful! I was so fortunate to have so much quality time to spend with my family and being laid off from that job gave me the time and fight to focus on pursuing my next step in life.
After going through this process and really sitting down to think about all of these questions, I prepared a list of goals for my 2018:
Move out of my parent’s house
Take myself out for a “Personal Date” each month(I have more info about this queued up for an upcoming post!)
Book at least 5 Freelance jobs
Travel somewhere new
Read a book
Save money & create a budget
Make more of an effort to watch the news
Give nice guys a chance
Make/create something for ME each month
Run a 5k
Looking at that crazy list, I couldn’t be prouder to say that in at least some way I have checked off everything that was on my list! I moved out of my parent’s house and actually took it one step farther and moved all the way to California. I took the time to enjoy being by myself and being my own person (including getting my own 1-bedroom place.) I’m happy to say I booked well over 5 freelance projects and it’s continuing to grow. I traveled all over the place in LA but the most noteworthy trip being to Lake Arrowhead. I read Chip and Joanna Gaines book, The Magnolia Story, and loved it even if it took me most of the year to get through it. I made a budget and did my best to stick with it but hey- at least all my bills are getting paid! Although I still hate to watch the news, I signed up for The Skimm and at least I feel like I always have a big picture idea what’s going on in the world. I met Emory (completely on a fluke and unexpectedly) and have had the healthiest and happiest relationship even from over 1,000 miles away. Although I didn’t create something like I had in mind EACH month I started this blog and have pushed myself to find different creative outlets. I also didn’t actually run an organized 5k, but I’ve kept up with running and continue to work towards that goal.
I learned life lessons like work is not my pride and joy in life, so why was I always allowing it to be my number one priority and control my life? I now have a job I absolutely love yet, if I had the choice, I’d still pick a day hanging with my friends and family every time. So why would I ruin other aspects of my life just to get where I “think” I need to be in my career? I learned that getting worked up over little things isn’t always worth it (honestly, it really never is but that doesn’t make it any easier) I learned it’s not fair to always hold myself to my standard of doing things because “I’m supposed to” or because it’s what I think others expect of me. I “won” in my 2018 because I challenged myself to take risks and I put in the work to make them work out. I learned how truly amazing my family and friends really are and how much I’ve taken them for granted in the past.
Phew, that was a lot! When I made my 2018 goal list initially, I would have been happy just crossing a few of the thing off the list. Now I know this process worked and that I as a person am capable of so much more. I made goals for myself that both challenged me while still being fully attainable and I couldn’t be happier with my progress. This process may be tedious but trust me it works! Hilary’s exercises really challenge you to take a look at yourself and sort through what you’re really looking for (both big picture/long term but also what you want just 6 months from now.)
Launch a creative Passion Project(one that hopefully brings in some supplemental income)
Run a 5k (This time it’s actually going to happen)
Visit a new State/Country
Book 5 more Freelance Clients/projects
Payoff at least ½ of my remaining student loans
Read a book (I never read books so even one is a lofty goal)
Organize and sort through all of my old files(eeek I’ve been putting this off for forever)
Visit home at least 3 times
Try something new/learn a new skill
The important thing about setting goals, is they need to be achievable. For many reasons you need to set goals that you actually have control over and that have a physical outcome that allows you to be like “yes, I did it. I accomplished it.” For example, this year I’m also challenging myself to be more in the moment, but that’s really vague as a goal and there’s not really anything that’d allow me to 100% say I succeeded at that mission a year from now. Another thing is I hope I can continue to grow my relationship, while I’m extremely hopeful and optimistic, it wouldn’t have been fair to me to have the goal last year “find a boy friend” you can’t force that upon anyone including yourself. However, you can find ways to inspire that outcome. For example, challenge yourself to go on more dates by using online dating or something like that. And keep in mind you’re looking at your goals for just one year at a time. Think of all the baby steps you need to accomplish before you get to your ultimate end goal. You’re never going to be able to solve every single world and life problem in just 365 days so allow yourself to be realistic. By writing your goals in a way that you understand the outcome you’re really looking for, you’ll feel even better when you can confidently say you achieved it.
You might ask, why am I sharing all of this personal stuff with you and why I think you care about my goals…? Well, selfishly putting this out there for me helps hold myself accountable. It publishes my goals out into the world and in some way holds me even more accountable. With that being said, if you need someone to help hold you accountable, PLEASE feel free to share it with me! I’d love to be your cheerleader celebrating your victories with you and encouraging you through the rough patches (because trust me it’s not all going to come easy!) Be patient, stay focused and believe in yourself. Moving forward, this blog also gives me the outlet to share my progress working towards these goals throughout the year. By sharing my journey, I hope you can find ways to relate and together we’ll figure out some of these life questions and more ways to find our own meanings of success and happiness.
So, whether you’re feeling a little lost or unsure about what your next step is- seriously take some time to work through this work book. Grab a glass of wine or whiskey, shut your phone off, get out a journal or notebook and take the time to answer and fill in all of these questions. If you get stuck, don’t hesitate to ask for clarification on help IK it can be tricky without her actual webinar! If you find it helpful, I recommend checking out Hilary Rushford’s other webinars about anything from fashion advice, to info about how to start your own business, and even about Instagram. Please let me know if you get as much use out of it as I did and a year from now, I can’t wait for you to look back and see how far you’ve come!
As much as I wish Halloween and October festivities could go on throughout the year… Having a month dedicated to all things Fall and spooky makes it seem even more special. Although I’m not really sure where my love of Halloween started, I get so excited as it starts to get darker earlier and begins to cool off. This year, my first year celebrating my favorite Holiday in LA, did not disappoint. This month was jam packed with so many festivities, I wanted to share them all with you!
I started October off extra spooky with one of my favorite Halloween traditions, haunted houses. We decided to go to one of LA’s top Halloween attractions, Universal Studios’ Halloween Horror Nights. Every year Universal transforms their theme park into the ultimate Halloween experience. They set up over 8 haunted mazes and houses just for this event. Being Universal, you know their budget is going to be huge and they go all out. Every detail is thoroughly thought out and something scary lurks around every corner. Emory had never been to Universal Studios before AND he had NEVER been to a haunted house (I know I couldn’t believe it either.) We had such a blast enjoying Harry Potter world, drinking butter beer, and getting scared out of our wits!
Another October tradition that’s popular with the 21+ crowd and isn’t scary in the slightest, is Oktoberfest. Germany’s autumn festival dedicated to drinking beer and eating pretzels and sausages. This is one holiday I’ve never celebrated and although I would have loved to be in Munich, I couldn’t have asked for a better time. I went with a group of ladies to Lake Arrowhead for their Oktoberfest celebration! We had such a blast enjoying a weekend by the lake, a break from the LA heat, and just enjoying each other’s company. We ate lots of pretzels, drank our fair share of beer, but my favorite treat was Tajin flavored popcorn. I had never heard of such a thing, but Tajin is Mexican seasoning salt that is a blend of chili pepper and lime… mmm so good! You can buy the seasoning and try it for yourself!
I think my love of Halloween has been heavily influenced by movies. Growing up I loved non-scary classics like Halloweentown, Haunted Mansion, and Hocus Pocus. (Also known as the movies I watch on repeat every October, every year.) As I got older, I was introduced to movies of the horror, scary, thriller genre. With that being said I know I have A LOT of classics to catch up on especially with the new release of the classic, Halloween. This year, on Halloween night, I went to see the new Halloween movie. Let’s just say I really underestimated how scary a man wearing a mask can be and I should have never doubted Michael Myers. Although I was terrified and on the edge of my seat the whole time, I loved every minute of it. My heart was racing, and the adrenalin rush had me racing! Thankfully Emory was still up to console me on the drive home! I’d highly recommend going to see the movie even though Halloween is over. It’s by far one of the best scary movies I’ve seen in a long time!
But of course, it’s no secret that I looooooove to dress up. Every year I look forward to coming up with costume ideas and making them from scratch. I love to dress up and pretend for a night to be something I’m not. I love the creative challenge of thinking outside the box. This year I sported two new costume ideas! These past two years, I’ve gotten pretty into plants (if you haven’t read Plant Possibilities check it out and see what I mean) That with the California landscape inspired me to take stab at creating a cactus costume. It gave a new meaning to Pokey Jae. Last year I dressed up as a client for work, so for this year’s Office Halloween Party I wanted to come up with something related again. Although I never had one but always wanted one, I decided to be a style me Barbie. Everyone at work loved it enough to vote me the Most Creative costume!
College had given me an outlet to take this love of dressing up in costume to the next level with events going on every night of the week and an excuse to wear multiple costumes. This year I took a trip through Instagram with 13 Posts from Halloweens Past! I hope everyone had a sppppppoooooookkkkkkkkeyyy Halloweeeeeeeeennnn (If you haven’t listened to my favorite podcast, My Favorite Murder, I suggest you do, and you’ll get that reference. BUT its not just a Halloween thing!) Until next year! Stay spooky and get excited for next year’s Halloween!
Wow, ya know what?! It’s been almost exactly one year since I graduated from the University of Iowa and I must say all things considering I’ve been beyond fortunate this past year.
I believe this was one of the toughest years of my life (and I’ve heard that my fellow classmates can relate) because for the first time my next step wasn’t already pre-determined. When we grow up our parents are making all of our decisions for us–what to eat, what to do today, where to go to school, yada yada yada. Then once we start to think we’re gaining our independence in middle school, we start to do what society tells us to (or in some cases the exact opposite.)
Next, we go to high school, then college, and then a few prolong the inevitable and go to more college BUT THEN when you do graduate or call it quits on school you find out you’re all on your own. “Go find a job” (if only it really was that simple) and then for the first time you’ve truly got to figure it out on your own, but at the same time it’s not really even up to you. Now your fate is in a complete stranger’s hand.
When applying to jobs, getting jobs, and working jobs all we can do is our very best and try to exceed their expectations every step of the way. Coming out of college I was very lucky to have had over a year’s experience working in my field of study, graphic design. I had worked as an assistant graphic designer at Hancher Auditorium (the best 😉 performing arts venue in the Midwest) and had an internship with NBCUniversal (where I fell in love with LA.) Plus years of student organization leadership experience and other miscellaneous jobs.
About a week before college graduation I received my first full time job offer. After a lot of thinking, I decided to accept the position of Senior Graphic Designer at Mittera Creative Agency in Des Moines, Iowa (thus prolonging my dream of moving west for a little longer.) At Mittera I worked alongside a great group of talented individuals and an amazing core group of inspiring women. I learned so much by working with clients like Hy-Vee, Schnucks, and even a little Theisen’s. While agency life was exhausting and easy to complain about, I’m beyond grateful. The friends I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned about design, working, business, people, and myself made the entire experience worth it. After 9 months of working there, it’s true Mittera made a lot of decisions for me when they let me, and half the team go but they pushed me to stop waiting and to go after my dreams.
Halloween Party @ Mittera
Fall Fun Chalkboard Mural
Holidays @ Mittera
From January to March I’d been applying to jobs like crazy all over the world. I traveled to New York to visit a friend and see what I thought of the city, but even after all that contemplating I knew LA still had my heart. I got in contact with a few talent/recruiting agencies here in LA and in the end ended up enrolling in four different companies’ systems. (I’ll save that for another topic one day.) Once I moved out here, the different agencies had already helped me set up a number of interviews. After a week I had already been offered a job. I took the temporary freelance position with Roberts Beauty’s skincare line Florapy Beauty. Here I am currently providing creative and art direction for the brand as well as creating content and developing their digital engagement. (make sure to follow @florapybeauty on Instagram to see exactly what I’m doing) So far, it’s so great. I’m really enjoying the brand, the creative freedom, and again another strong, smart group of women to work with.
I’m not sure what will happen next but I’m enjoying the moment and promise to keep you posted. So far all of these experiences have taught me that you can make any career happen if you want it enough and are willing to make the necessary sacrifices to make it happen. Of course, the flipside of that is also knowing your worth as an employee and as a talented and skilled person. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and your abilities and don’t settle for less. Only you can hold yourself back!